So, you’ve met a cool guy who asked you out. Exciting? Totally. A little nerve-wracking? Absolutely. So, what’s a girl to do to lessen the nerves that inevitably come with first-date territory? We all could use some advice in this department.
Here are a few dos and don’ts to keep in mind when hanging out with someone totally new. Remember, it’s all about making a solid first impression.
DO speak up.
Nobody likes a pushover, so if your date tells you he’s planned an evening at a sushi restaurant and you don’t eat fish, or he wants to hang at a cocktail lounge but you don’t drink, speak up. It’ll only look strange if you tell him all that after you’re already seated and waiting to order. Same goes for being decisive. If he asks what you’d like to eat, drink, or share for dessert, don’t say “I don’t care, what do you want?” Wishy-washy can get real old, real fast.
DON’T wear things that you can’t walk, eat, breathe, or talk in.
Obviously, you want to look your best, but a first date isn’t the time to take those new 5-inch stilettos out for a road test, or wear that dress that’s a little too tight. Why? Because first dates are anxiety-filled enough and being uncomfortable in your clothes only makes it worse. Plus, won’t it suck to not be able to walk a few blocks on a nice night because your heels are too high? Instead, wear things you know look good on you but won’t hinder you from being cool, calm, and collected.
DO be on time.
Yeah, we know the whole fashionably late ideology still exists, but on a first date, you’ll make a better impression if you show up on time. Would you want him to show up late? Probably not. What’s that? It takes you two hours to do your hair? Sounds like you’re perfectly aware of that fact, which means you’ll know exactly how much time you need to prepare ahead of time, even if it’s five hours.
DON’T not eat.
Most guys will freely tell you that there’s nothing more cliché than a girl who doesn’t eat on a date. If you think not ordering dinner will make you appear skinnier, prettier, more feminine, or more mysterious, guess what? It won’t. What it will do? Probably make your dude a little uncomfortable.
DON’T drink too much.
There’s not much to say here without sounding like a preachy parent, but keep this in mind: Having to be carried home by a guy you barely know isn’t chic nor is slurring your words, doing something you regret, or crying at the dinner table. Sure, a cocktail or two can be fun and loosen the mood, but knowing your limits will help make a better first impression.
As cliché as it sounds, being yourself is probably the best way to ensure you not only have a good time on a first date, but also get a second date, too!